August 3, 2008

Without Closure

clo·sure (klō'zhər), n.

1. The act of closing or the state of being closed: closure of an incision.
2. Something that closes or shuts.
a. A bringing to an end; a conclusion: finally brought the project to closure.
b. A feeling of finality or resolution, especially after a traumatic experience.
4. See cloture.
5. The property of being mathematically closed.

Who would really want closure? If we were to accept closure as a part of grief, would that mean an end to memories and feelings? Would it mean that we agree they are gone forever rather than keeping them alive through
memories? I have yet to hear a grieving person tell me they could finalize their grief because the person responsible for the death had been caught or the cause of an accident had been understood. Many times they thought it would bring an end to the pain but in reality it did not.

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